Cheyenne Steele's Blog

 Working with the public, with people, there is the constant problem of rejection, ridicule, ‘dramas,’ misunderstandings.   I have seen many people suffering uselessly what cannot be avoided. Developing a talent for handling these rejections can be very useful!!!

Don’t expect thanks
It is natural to think that people will be thankful when you share yourself with them. You are bringing them a gift, the greatest gift there is, the gift of yourself. It is very natural to feel that people will be thankful to you.
Don’t expect it. Expect just the contrary, that people will never be able to forgive you. The greater gift you bring to them, the greater will be their anger. They will crucify you, they will poison you – expect things like that.

Hope for the best, but expect the worse. If they don’t kill you, be thankful to them.

Don’t expect anyone to be thankful for you. On the contrary, be thankful if something wrong is being done to you. That is natural. You should know well, you should expect it. If it doesn’t happen, that is a miracle!
If you are being Yourself, truly being Authentic, the society will be against you, the society will create misery for you. You will have to suffer many kinds of things – bad reputation.

Ignore misery and bad reputation…. 

It is very difficult to ignore misery and bad reputation. You will find people and circumstances that are against you wherever you go. You will certainly gain a bad reputation. It is natural. Just to be associated with any particular thought or idea and some people will start to ridicule you, think of you as mad or something.
Only those rare seekers will be able to ignore all the misery and bad reputation. Those who are just curious, they will not be able to. Acceptance and surface was too important to them. But if you are sincere, you can just ignore the misery and bad reputation. If you can do this, you are fortunate! Only the courageous ones, only the true seekers will be able to ignore everything, will be able to sacrifice everything, will be able to stake everything.
If people are speaking poorly of you:
Drop the people, ignore what they say. Instead, pour your whole energy into one thing: How to drop this ego-clinging.  How to see your own attachment!  How to release your own co-dependence! 
Once the ego is no more there, you will be able to smile. You will see more clearly the nonsense. You will be able to see how people are sleepwalking, they just bumped into you. The mistake was you thought they were awake. They are not! Forgive them.
Forgive them.  

Forgive them.

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Misery give you a very crystallized ego. In misery you are crystallized. In happiness, you are diffused. You must live moment to moment entering the unknown. Can you see this? If you are miserable there’s something solid to relate to, the misery!

Misery makes you special. No one has your specific misery. Happiness is a universal phenomenon, there’s nothing special about it. Trees are happy and animals are happy and birds are happy. The whole existence is happy, except man. Being miserable, man becomes very special, extraordinary! Wouldn’t be extraordinary to see a miserable squirrel? Now that would be special! Nothing extraordinary about a happy squirrel.

Misery makes you capable of attracting people’s attention. Whenever you are miserable you are attended to, sympathized, loved. Everybody starts taking care of you. Who wants to hurt a miserable person? Who is jealous of a miserable person? Who wants to be antagonistic to a miserable person? That will be too mean.

The miserable person is cared for, loved, attended to. There is great investment in misery. I notice if my children were not miserable, they might get totally forgotten. Sitting being happy, you don’t get much attention. Just a little misery and the whole house comes running! If you’re miserable you’re not so alone, one has a family, friends.

Nobody likes a happy person, because the happy person hurts the egos of the others. The others start feeling, “So you have become happy and we are still crawling in darkness, misery and hell. How dare you be happy when all are in such misery!”

There are reasons we are attached to misery. You just look into your misery, watch, and you will be able to find what are the reasons. And then look into those moments when once in a while you allow yourself the joy of being in joy. And then see what differences are there. Notice: when you are miserable you are a conformist. Society loves it, people respect you. You are conforming to something that does not fit you, and you’re miserable. But you are respected by society. People feel more friendly towards you. Another reason people are miserable is because if you’re happy, people will be jealous of you. You will have less friends. They will feel cheated around you. So we have even learned to repress happiness and to express misery! It has become our second nature.

Be happy, respect happiness, and help people to understand that happiness is the goal of life. We have to learn a totally new language. We have to learn the language of health, wholeness, happiness.

Happiness needs talents, genius, creativity. Only creative people are happy. Misery needs no talents; anybody can afford it. Only creative people are happy. Happiness is a byproduct of creativity. Create something, and you will be happy. Create a garden and when the flowers bloom, something in you will also bloom. Create a painting, and something in you will start growing. As you are completing the painting, suddenly you will realize you are different, not the same person anymore. You have changed. Something new is in you! Write a poem, sing a song, dance a dance, and you start to become happy.

Life is an opportunity to be creative. If you are creative you will be happy. It needs intelligence to be happy. It will be arduous. But when you’ve reached the peak and you lie down, whispering with the clouds, looking at the sky, the joy that fills your heart, that joy comes always whenever you reach any peak of creativity, you will know happiness.

It needs intelligence to be happy, and people are taught to remain unintelligent. Society does not need intelligent people. Society needs stupid people, because stupid people are manageable. An intelligent person is not necessarily obedient, they may or may not. It will up to him or her, you see? The stupid person needs somebody to command him or her, because they have no intelligence of their own.

Without intelligence there can be no happiness. Man can only be happy if he is intelligent, utterly intelligent. Meditation is a device to release your intelligence. The more meditative you become, the more intelligent you become. And when I say intelligence, I don’t mean intellectual. An intellectual knows nothing, that’s why he is an intellectual. He is not meditative, he is a robot, repeating, repeating, repeating what he’s read, studied, been told. Intelligence is a totally different phenomenon. It comes from YOUR center. It wells up in you, and with it many things start growing in you. You become happy, creative, you become rebellious, adventurous, you start loving insecurity, you start moving into the unknown. You start living dangerously, because that’s the only way to live!

May you have an interesting life, and a Happy New Year!

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